I get that she changed her mind and opted not to move forward with her plan--but it was 99.9% done. Let's recap:
1. She hired a lawyer to find sensitive info.
2. She met with the lawyer multiple times.
3. She left the sensitive paperwork out in a common area.
4. She admitted to someone (prior to knowing it was found) that her plan was to accidentally leave the file out where Rocco would find it.
She didn't pull the trigger, but her scheme worked and gave the intended results she wanted. The fact remains that she initiated this plot knowing full well a child would be hurt. What Lulu did was similar but with these huge differences:
1. She didn't set out to find dirt on BLQ.
2. She kept silent for months when asked.
3. Gio is a grown man. Rocco is a child.
4. Dante had a right to know he not only had another child in the world--but he was living with him.
Dante went off on her and then forgave her in the same episode. I mean, his anger could have at least lasted a couple of episodes.